Planning Your First Ever BDSM Session
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BDSM Session Basic Tips for Beginners
At first it can be confusing and even scary, because of the look of the game you are going to get into, so the first thing I want to clarify is that BDSM does not have to include pain in the relationship , remember it must always be , safe, healthy, consensual.
Although in my last article I gave you a guide of tips for beginners and said that I was going to start talking about domination, submission, types of masters and submissives, I have come to the conclusion that before you have to throw taboos down and give certain guides on this world. So in this post I try to give a small practical guide on how to start.
Another misconception is that a BDSM session relationship has to be intense and that that intensity is maintained throughout the relationship. Well no, I understand that sometimes it is difficult to find information on how to start slowly and I recognize that we have all been impatient at some point (especially at the beginning), but it is best to start slowly, especially if you are new to physical aspects of BDSM. It is dangerous for yourself and your partner or for a third party that you start to perform techniques that you do not know how to do. Practice and planning are essential when trying new challenges.
When a couple begins to get started in the physical aspects of BDSM, it is usually common that the submissive part is scared and afraid. It is best to start slowly, for example with a velvet flogger or flexible suede.
A velvet or suede flogger causes hardly any pain (unless you apply it harshly) but produces a very erotic and awakening sensation. Many of us use it as a toy or to heat the environment, its function is to cause pleasure, not pain.
Since it is difficult to harm your partner with the flogger, it is great for learning. It takes a lot of effort to get a velvet flogger to really hurt. Use only small strokes at first, increasing the intensity little by little each time. This allows both of you to adjust the sensations as they increase and learn to relax with the procedure.
Another way to start playing is with soft bondage. To start, choose a position, for the submissive, with arms and legs spread cross (Spread eagle) using a rope wide enough to be very soft. You can use velvet fabric bows. It could be on the bed, facing upwards or face down with cushions under the belly.
Many masters find velvet fabric bows perfect for working. Once again the softness creates a very erotic sensation, and also allows you to clearly see the reality of feeling tied up. Also, being softer, they are less likely to dig into the skin if they are tied too tightly or slip. ALWAYS have scissors nearby in case you need to free your sub. There are many soft knots that can be tightened or slipped depending on the submissive's struggle, this is a field that I will talk about later.
Basically, any type of game you have read or heard about, can be very smooth and be used as games for beginners, you just have to be proactive and have creativity. At first, the objective is focused on giving pleasure, this will help overcome fear and may be the beginning of a long road to other types of practices.
Always comment on the scenes after they are done, to learn BDSM session that your partner liked or did not like. These talks are of great importance to think about the next sessions. However, it is essential during these conversations that both parties honestly present their feelings and opinions. If the sub wants the blows to be stronger, both should know, since otherwise the Dominant will not know when to take the game to a higher level.
Always play it safe, always try to test the toys with yourself (if possible) before using them with your sub and always practice the technique and aim with any flogger until you feel comfortable before using it with a being alive.
A velvet or plush pillow is good for practicing, because the change in the color of those materials will indicate where the blow is. Remember, a session is for the pleasure of those who participate, so design your specific preferences (and those of those who participate) and let nature take its course.
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